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The disciplinary principal at my arts high school calls an assembly that was supposed to be about not wearing hats inside the school buildings, but which spirals off into him lecturing us “young ladies” about wearing skin-tight leggings and our dancers walking in the hallways in leotards. He tells us the construction workers around the school have been checking us out and that we need to stop dressing this way if we want to be “safe.” Those of us who vocally protested this were shut down by classmates and teachers who said we were making too big a deal out of it.
I’m participating in a self-defense class this semester. The day before class started, the instructor sends out an email with information on the class. A paragraph explained that the class was not a martial arts class, so it was not recommended for men. Are men born with inherently better self-defense skills? I didn’t think so. Guys get mugged too. And what about the fact that 10% of rape victims are men?
I’m participating in a self-defense class this semester. The day before class started, the instructor sends out an email with information on the class. A paragraph explained that the class was not a martial arts class, so it was not recommended for men. Are men born with inherently better self-defense skills? I didn’t think so. Guys get mugged too. And what about the fact that 10% of rape victims are men?
I convinced my boyfriend of a year to go to a school basketball game with me (he detests sports, but a friend of ours was playing). I bought our tickets from our vice principal at the door, handing her a twenty and asking, “two students, please!”
She said, “I hope you aren’t buying his ticket.”
Shocked, I tried to laugh, “I did make him come with me!”
She replied, “Well I guess that’s okay, honey. I was gonna tell you to dump him if he made you pay.”
We went to our seats, he was uncomfortably silent and I was cussing her out profusely. I felt angry, devalued, defensive, and pissed by what society forces on him.
“Are you sure you are alright with driving a stick shift?”
I received this question at different car dealerships when purchasing my last three cars. Asked around to my male friends who drive stick shift cars and none of them have ever received this question.
A girl who lived in Africa joined our class in school. She’s white. I’m black. Our teacher says to me, “Welcome!” I say, “I’m from Michigan.”
“Are you lesbian because a man hurt you?”
I was facing homelessness after my parents found out I’m lesbian. My only nearby support system was the school I attended. After I explained the situation and disclosed my sexuality to a teacher I trusted with the information, this was the response I got.
When I try to explain to people that I am, indeed, a native Hawaiian, people usually either laugh or ask “What are you? Albino?” Yes. Yes I am.
In my Mandarin Chinese class at University, my teacher, who is from China, wrote the character for ‘banana’ on the board. Then she pointed to my friend Tania, who is ethnically Chinese but born here and whose family is from Mauritius, and said Tania is like a banana because she’s yellow on the outside… you get it. Tania left the room and later dropped out of the class. The teacher was flabbergasted.
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