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“You’re too smart for your own good.”
“Well, it’s only because she has that Hispanic last name (Martinez). You know, they are always looking for minorities.”
“Before we met when I first saw your name I thought you were going to be one of those quiet Asians-you know? And my mom was like ‘well maybe she’ll just spend all her time in the library so you’ll have the room to yourself! I’m so glad you’re not like that!”
Last year I was explaining to my roommate's friend my family background; I'm Congolese but because my dad worked for an international organization we traveled a lot. After hearing him being surprised at how good my English was, I made the mistake of telling him that my dad grew up in a village and then went to college in the city.
Him:: So he's from a village?
Me:: Yea that's right.
Him:: So did he take your mom out of the village? Like did he teach her about civilization and languages?
Me:: ...No...My mom is from the city and went to college in Canada with a full ride. They met while working.
Him:: Oh My bad. Since you said "village" I just assumed.
I was about to lose my shit - he said it so casually and although my roommate was pointing out his ignorance/racism, he didn't seem to find anything wrong with what he just said.
“Maybe you should consider [a completely different career path].”
My black friends:: You aren't really black though, you act like a white girl.
My white friends:: You aren't really white though, you're like dark.
All of them telling me I have to be one, I can't be both. I'm just me though. Makes me feel like I can only be a certain race if I look and act a certain way.