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“Maybe you should consider [a completely different career path].”
My black friends:: You aren't really black though, you act like a white girl.
My white friends:: You aren't really white though, you're like dark.
All of them telling me I have to be one, I can't be both. I'm just me though. Makes me feel like I can only be a certain race if I look and act a certain way.
Stranger:: What do you do?
Me:: I'm a professor.
Stranger:: You're way too young to be a professor. You look like a student.
I'm in my 30s and I dress more professionally than my colleagues. But I'm also petite and female. My male partner, who has the same age and occupation, is never told that he doesn't look like a professor. It sends me the message that I'm an imposter, merely play-acting at being a serious scholar or authority figure. Made me feel like no one will take me seriously despite my accomplishments.
“What do you mean you don’t like Takis (Mexican chip-like snack)?! It’s like being Mexican and not liking beans!”
“But even you would agree that it’s not medically necessary in the same way as someone who is dying of something.”