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microaggressions:

Every single book or documentary presented to me that persistently refers to indigenous North American people in the  past tense.

OH, THAT’S WHY YOU DON’T HAVE AN ACCENT: YOU’RE PART WHITE.

age: 16 (via microaggressions)

You should pierce your ears so people know you’re a girl.

People.

I’m watching an Improv Everywhere video. One of the (white) actors involved greets a “bystander” in Spanish. (“Que tal?” is the first thing he says, before the bystander speaks.) This has nothing to do with the scenario; it’s just because the bystander is Hispanic. Made me feel annoyed, indignant. 

He tells me I should dress “cute” and wear different things, that maybe he should go with me to pick out “more appealing clothing.” I should get a new bathing suit because he thinks a different kind would look better on me. He’s just a friend. Makes me feel like I exist for someone else’s enjoyment.

Every time someone uses the word “psychotic” to mean some variation of “evil, sadistic murder”. This is not what this word means, and every single supposedly insignificant use of this word in a derogatory manner contributes to the massive stigma that I, as a mentally ill person who has been diagnosed with psychosis (amongst other things), has to live with. This is the reason that I lie to friends, classmates and teachers if they see me picking up a prescription. Even when I tell people I am mentally ill I have a tenancy to only mention my other diagnoses, because the stigma surrounding the word “psychotic” is so great that people believe I must be joking in applying it to myself.  Makes me feel like I have to continue lying even though I desperately need support and understanding because I don’t want people to be afraid of me.

My parents worked for all their money. My family planned ahead for me to attend post secondary.

I hear these kind of defensive statements all the time from upper middle class students whenever I sound even slightly exasperated explaining to them that no, my mother does not have any money to pay for my education and I have to cover it entirely with loans and scholarships whereas they have told me that their parents are giving them all the money they need.

Makes me feel angry, because my mother is the hardest working person I know. She had to work so hard just to survive on welfare as a single mother, and even harder to eventually find any emploment at all. She still lives below the poverty line. When people insinuate that my family somehow didn’t try hard enough to provide for me I wish I there was some way I could force them to understand that for some people no matter how hard we work, there will never be anything left over to save.

I’m a Customer Service Agent for Amazon.com in a foreign site. Many customers ask for an Agent in the United States the moment they hear my voice.

I’m a mixed race girl (Nigerian & English) who has just finished transitioning from a relaxer to natural hair. I’m sat with my Caucasian friend and Black friend at lunch talking about having children when the Caucasian girl announces: “well my children will be some sort of mixed race, we’ve already established that. But i don’t want them to have that really curly hair. No. None of that.” I’m angry that she would think it’s acceptable to reject and act disgusted at a feature that her friend has!! Also disappointed as she acts as if she wants her children to have brown skin but no other features associated with being black.

Lol, Asian gay guys are too girly, I suppose.

I’m at my campus bar and a male student starts chatting me up. I casually disclose that I am queer and have a girlfriend. Later that night, as he is leaving, he takes my hand, looks deep into my eyes and says, “Just so you know. I don’t believe that you’re gay. You’re too girlie and pretty.”

What hurts the most is that he thinks this is a compliment; as if the only reason I’m not with men is because I don’t think I’m ‘pretty’ enough for them. Another typical conflation of gender presentation and sexual orientation.

When standing next to my mom -“I didn’t know you were adopted.”

Happens twice as often now that she’s married to my step-dad, who is also white.

At work in an all-male work environment. Get called up to the front. There’s cupcakes hidden on top of a cabinet and they think I can’t get it down. I pull it down and open it up to get a cupcake, excited because I overslept and skipped breakfast earlier that day. One of my much older superiors says, “Can’t keep a woman away from her chocolate.” I eat the cupcake anyways, but spend the time feeling alienated.

But you don’t look Jewish!

Yes, I am a very Scandinavian looking woman.  I’m also Jewish. 

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