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I was taking anatomy and physiology and during an open lab session one of my classmates (who is a white male) asked me what my major was. But before I could tell him he said “Wait you’re doing nursing right? Am I right ??” in a manner where he felt very confident in his answer. When I told him I was taking a class to be a medical lab technician, he sounded astonished and baffled all at the same time. He said that “It’s a shame that you’re not trying to be a nurse.”

I am a filipino female.

I don’t understand how you actually have a round butt and big boobs. I mean, you’re Asian for crying out loud!

My white coworker at my previous job at a clothing store.

I overheard one of my husband’s co-workers tell him that "It must be nice to be married to an Asian woman, because they’re so submissive."

I was waiting in the checkout line at a convenient store on the Jersey shore to buy a drink and a snack. Two young white guys who were chatting walked between the checkout line and the counter, clearly heading for the door with food and Gatorade. The cashier called to them “Excuse me, you have to pay for that.” One guy said, “Oh,” and instead of going to the back of the line, he cut in front of me and pays for the food at the counter. The cashier didn’t say anything or send them to the back of line. It happened so quickly, I didn’t respond, but afterward I felt their oblivious entitlement infuriating.

I’m participating in my schools fall play and need to use a mirror in the girl’s changing room. I ask the girls if it’s okay for me to come in when one of them says it’s okay because I’m gay and that I have “an honorary vagina” and that I’m “basically one of the girls.” Just because I’m gay doesn’t mean I’m inherently feminine or that I’m one of the girls. It’s fine if your comfortable enough around me that it’s okay if I might see you changing, but just because I’m not objectifying you doesn’t mean you can consider me a female.

While talking to a friend about relationships and my lack of experience with them, she claimed that “You shouldn’t have any problems with finding a boyfriend; you’re Asian and pretty much all white guys love Asian girls.” Obviously, not only is the sole attractive quality I possess my race, but the only type of person I want (or deserve) to have a relationship with is white.

All of the ‘independent women’ I knew eventually settled down and got married. Your instinct will kick in soon.

My boss to my coworker when she mentioned that she doesn’t plan on getting married or having children. He said the quote above after asking her ‘what man did her wrong.’

While on vacation in Florida, my parents, brother, and I are eating lunch at a nice restaurant. Completely out of nowhere my brother says “Why do you wear such low-cut tops? Are you advertising? Because I don’t think anyone is gonna buy.” I was shocked and taken aback and became very upset. But not only did my parents not reprimand my brother, they yelled at me for being upset and ruining the day.

One day, my brother is trying to have a conversation with me about my weight. In an effort to get me to try and slim down he says:

You know, the only men who are ever going to find you attractive are skinny black men. And if I ever find out you’re dating one, I’m going to kill him. In front of you. Then I’m going to kill you. Haha.

I was shocked, to say the least. Not only was I hurt from his comments about my size, I felt kind of scared and unsafe around my brother.

Every man who walks into the office says “Hello Girls” to me and my coworker, but will address each man by name. If I mention this I know my male coworkers would never understand why it’s so rude and belittling. Happens EVERY SINGLE TIME!!

A white man in his 50s/60s (a stranger) stared at me (an Asian American woman in her 20s) as I was leaving the office and said, “That’s a very pretty outfit.” His tone was ambiguously friendly but a little lecherous, I thought.

I questioned my first impression that it was a microaggression (“Can’t you even take a well-meaning compliment?!”)… til I recognized that it had made me walk faster and make the split second decision to take the open air stairs in the parking garage up 6 flights just in case he followed me to the elevator. made me feel objectified and unsafe, which makes me mad!

"Here’s a list of people who inspire us." 23 out of 23 people on this list are male. Call for submissions for a printing press. Amazed that they failed to think of even a single woman writer. Wondering whether they, consciously or unconsciously, have less time/respect for women writers. I don’t feel like I could submit something to them without directly addressing this absence, and I don’t have the energy right now. So I’m just pointing it out to microaggressions instead …

While practicing my martial art (Aikido) my partner, a large and muscular middle-aged man, begins to instruct me as if he is doing me a favor—despite the fact that we aren’t too many ranks apart and he has no teaching certification. 
I felt worthless, as if his status as older, stronger, and a man gave him the right to break dojo etiquette (only instructors should instruct) simply because of my small, girl status. His intentions were good, but his actions so incredibly misguided, unhelpful, and condescending. I felt as though I couldn’t say anything without sounding like an overly sensitive little girl…

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