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“No, just stop talking. You keep going on about this sort of stuff and I don’t care, ok?”
My younger sister to me, a closeted bisexual woman, cutting me off when I tried to educate her about biphobia. “This sort of stuff” refers to LGBTQ+ issues, feminism, and general social justice activism. Made me feel silenced, foolish, upset, angry and frustrated. Before this I was pretty sure she’d be the first person I’d come out to. Now I don’t know if I can ever come out to her at all.
My dad is pretty homophobic (i'm a lesbian in the closet)
Me:: Dad what do you think is wrong with homosexuals
Dad:: there is nothing wrong with them its just like dark-skinned people I dont discriminate them, but I wont marry a dark-skinned woman!
(correction homophobic and racist)"
One of my anthropology professors claimed that science had proven that the #1 thing women look for in a man is “resource gathering potential” (i.e. ability to make money) and then said, “Isn’t that right ladies? I know you’re all dating fellow undergrads!”
Because not only are we all dating, but all of our partners are male undergrads right? “
I was working on a group project with three other women. When I mentioned offhandedly that I didn’t want children, one of them turned to me and said, “you wouldn’t give one to your husband if he wanted one?!” in this horrified voice.
I am not straight, and do not ever plan on getting married.
In fifth grade we did an art project. They were hung on the wall and the next day, someone had written a homophobic slur (the f-word) on it in red marker. My teacher silently took it down during class and we never spoke of it.
“Asexual? I’m sorry that you’re broken.”
I’m asexual. This was said by my boyfriend. This really offends me. People like him don’t understand that wanting sex is not essential in order to be a whole person.
Me:: Um, she's a person, not an object...
Friend:: Oh come on, I'm sure if a hot redhead came onto you you wouldn't say no.
Me:: Because she was cool and pretty, not because she's an object...
Friend:: But you wouldn't say no.
I am a bisexual who prefers women. We don't automatically throw ourselves at any attractive woman we see, we don't just think in terms of sex, and I don't like being used to justify someone else's sexism.
“We can butch you up.”
I was in my campus’s LGBTQ Center and came out as bi. Made me feel that some people within the LGBTQ community still associate hair length with sexual orientation.
In high school, my sister asked me to buy her Homecoming tickets for her. Couples tickets were cheaper, and the Homecoming committee would make all couples little commemorative paper plaques with their names on them. This happened.
“I’d like to buy a couple’s ticket, please.”
“Alright, and what are the names?”
“Ashley and Manda.”
“Ashley and…. Manda?”
“Yes.”
“As in…. *A*manda?”
“Yes.”
“Um, these are couples tickets. Like, for a COUPLE.”
“And Ashley is my sister and Manda is her date. Is there a problem?”
The lady gave me the most uncomfortable look, but gave me the tickets.
My college level professor expressed her opinion that it is unprofessional and wrong for queer professors to discuss their sexuality in class. She said that queers should not be influencing young minds this way. She then proceeded to talk about her own husband and marriage later in the class.
My doctor diagnoses me with vaginismus, which is a condition which can make penetrative sex painful or difficult. She explains that it isn’t so bad because I am ‘too young to be having sex anyways’ and that one day ‘my husband will understand.’ I really want to be able to have sex, and I don’t appreciate the assumption that I like men or that I desire marriage just because I am female. I wonder whether the same comments would have been made towards a teenage boy. Made me feel judged, kicked while down, misunderstood.
An older male I know keeps asking about my boyfriend, even though I told him I don’t have a GIRLfriend. And why can’t I, as a young woman, just be single? Made me feel diminished, like he thinks a woman can’t exist without being in a relationship.
Last year at the office party, the people in charge of preparing name tags for the party hadn’t made one for my wife although she was clearly listed as my spouse in the office directory and it was my third year on the job (all three years with my spouse). Straight friends who were had been dating for a year or less had name tags for their partners, and other homosexual partners were in the same boat as me and my partner—no name tag. Fast forward one year: when RSVPing to this year’s party, I make a special request for my wife to receive a name tag and point out the discrimination last year. The person in charge of name tags writes back: “How could you attack me like this? Please don’t turn this into a ‘straight-gay’ thing. It was just an oversight.”
“Oh my god, aren’t guys who aren’t manly ashamed of themselves? Don’t they want to be *men*?! I mean, gay guys can dress however they want, but straight guys in skinny jeans or sparkly shirts? It’s just gross.”
I’m in the doctor’s office with my female partner. I am also female. I’ve just been diagnosed with a life long, incurable chronic illness. This is our first visit to this doctor, and while I have this illness, I would still be able to give birth to healthy children. He looks at me, looks at my partner, then back to me and says, “I’m putting down that you won’t be having children.” I said, “No, actually, I plan on giving birth in the next few years.” He said, “Well, I figure that…well…” and then he looks at my female partner again, like, we’re gay women, so naturally, we don’t plan on having kids. Then he goes on to recommend a treatment for a woman who does not plan on birthing babies.
